Who do we grieve most?

by Sophie on May 1, 2019

It’s strange, isn’t it, how some people’s deaths affect us more than others? I’ve been thinking about it since my friend Cheryl dropped dead in her kitchen while making breakfast on Valentine’s day. I sank and it took me years to get over it. At first I thought it was because her passing was so sudden. But since then other friends and acquaintances’ passing have cut through my heart and others have not.

Then I noticed that some celebrity deaths affected me greatly and others did not.               

 

Today someone I barely knew died, relatively suddenly, but he’d had a heart condition for years so we knew it was a possibility. I reflected on the fact that his wife was as kind in her dealings with me as he had been in his dealings with me and my ex, and the it hit me: I am most affected by the passing of people I consider to be kind. Friend, acquaintance, or famous person, the deaths I grieve most are those of kind individuals, because I know I am really going to miss their kindness. It is such a rare and precious gift, such a courageous daily choice to be kind, I respect that and I savour it when I encounter it. I miss kindness when it leaves my world.

Every time I lose a kind person in my life, I make the same decision: be the kindness that they were, so the world does not lose out, and make a new friend or two or three. For now I am going to feel the pain, let it pass through, allow it to fly away and make sure this dear man goes straight to the Light.

Who do you grieve most and why?

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If you take on other people’s pain, anxiety and symptoms and you want to stop it happening, join my April classes!

I will do energy work to remove other people’s pain and symptoms from your energy system.

We will also talk about boundaries, and I will show you how to establish stronger boundaries to protect yourself with energy healing.

We meet on the phone on Sunday 14th and Sunday 28th (= NOT Easter week-end) at 5pm UK time, which is 12pm EST and 9am PST, for one hour. April tuition fee is £77 or $100 so you can pay in your local currency.

You will receive the conference call details within 24 hours of registering. The classes will be recorded and I will send you the recording as soon as class is over. If you can attend one class and not the other, you can still register as energy healing works as well on a replay as it does live. The advantage of attending live is that you can ask me questions and make sure I do the work that you personally need.

To register or if you have any questions, contact me on FB, on Messenger or by email at sophielhoste@gmail.com.

I will talk to you soon!

 

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New Class: Healthy Boundaries for Sensitive Women

by Sophie on February 20, 2018

When you are sensitive, people and events around you often hurt you. But you can choose to feel better in every moment: protect yourself, change your mood and your reaction to the world around you by learning to control your energy.

In the class, Healthy Boundaries for Sensitive Women, we are going to look at how to protect ourselves, what our triggers are, why we avoid certain people and places, how to turn our sensitivity into our super power.

We will also cultivate our intuition. To listen to our intuition, we need to feel safe and it’s easy to create emotional safety with healthy boundaries.

With good boundaries and listening to your intuition, you can keep overwhelm in check, start carving some time for yourself and be more responsive with the people you love.

Just try the class! You can register for one month and see if you like it. Then stay for as long as you want, there is no contract, only a commitment to yourself to grow, heal and do the best you can for yourself, your family and your loved ones!

Healthy Boundaries for Sensitive Women starts on Sunday, March 4, 2018.

It is a teleclass, so you can participate from your own home

Class will be at 3pm EST, first Sunday of every month.

You will receive 50% off as many individual sessions as you want for every month that you are in the program.

All call details and discount code will be sent to you upon registration.

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Positive Discipline with Children

by Sophie on July 11, 2017

What would you say are the most effective methods or examples of positive reinforcement, of showing boundaries or of instilling respect?

There are so many! Whole books of them. The basis for me was to hold my babies a lot and cuddle them as much as possible so they knew deep in their bodies and hearts that they could trust me. So when I said: please don’t do this because it is dangerous, they TRUSTED me.

Second was to communicate, communicate, communicate: explain why we did what we did, from very young as a few months old, so they knew what to expect. Knowing what to expect makes kids feel safe and not out of control, so they don’t feel the need to act out so much.

Third was to make sure they were fed and rested when they acted out as little kids, because Hangry is a real thing and there is no point disciplining a child who is physically hungry or tired.

Fourth was to LISTEN to them endlessly, so I knew what they liked, wanted, avoided and were scared of. Often little kids scream, run away or kick because they don’t have the words to express what is going on and the adults haven’t paid attention to see the triggers.

5- I told them what I predicted what was going to happen, so they learned to trust my judgement (for example: if you take this toy to playgroup, so and do will want it and create a fight. Or: if you push this, it will fall and break). Which means that when I said later: “please don’t do this because this will happen”, they trusted me, believed me and did as I asked.

6- I did not micro manage them. I let them eat what they wanted, leave what they wanted, play what games they wanted, all the while paying attention and making notes but not being in their faces so they had no need to push me away.

7- they had a right to be angry but not to hit anyone or lash out at each other, though they could lash out at me. And we always made time to debrief and get to the bottom of why they lost it, then decided on a better course of action for next time: more advance warning, more food, arrive earlier or later, not invite this person, not go to those people’s house any more, be more active, get more rest, fix whatever was the root cause.

8- let them see and understand natural consequences: “you feel bad today because you wouldn’t sleep last night so now you are tired” is way more effective and a better long term lesson than slapping or yelling them into bed.

With the above as a foundation of trust and constant communication, if they did something dangerous like run away or hit someone, I would hold them, cuddle them and talk to them when they were little, so they were restrained lovingly but never hit.

As they grew older, I would remove pleasant things if communication and explanations had failed. Like: “if you fight at that house, we don’t visit there any more.” Or “if you don’t put this game away, there is no tv today” Then as teenagers: “if you don’t call me when I ask you to, I will not drive you where you want to go” or “I will disconnect your mobile phone for 24 hours.” You only have to do those things once for them to know you mean it. But the basis of not hitting is in communication, listening and deep respect for them which teaches them to respect you.

The last thing I want to say is that if you treat toddlers with the same deep respect that you do adults, meet their needs AND also allow them to tantrum and express their emotions, they have very little need to rebel and do super crazy shit as teenagers because they know they have always had your love and attention.

So no short answer. I think it’s a lot of small everyday decisions and deep respect for our kids that allows us to avoid hitting them.

No smacking need. Rather than needing to correct the kids’ behaviour I see it as need to correct ours as the adults in charge, and connect with the children.

It’s about working on ourselves and creating support for our own growth and mental health. Having support from like-minded peers who listened to me, helped me come up with alternative strategies, and also demonstrated patience, communication and respect with their own children was important to help me rewire my reactions.

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Raw Chocolate

by Sophie on December 11, 2016

A student asked me for my raw chocolate recipe yesterday. I first posted it 7 years ago, so here is my updated version:

Quantities are approximate, depending on how much you want to make and how sweet you like your chocolate.

  • 2 thirds cup raw cocoa powder
  • pinch of maca (careful: it can be an aphrodisiac!) or any superfood of your choice, like supergreens if you want your raw chocolate to be a ‘pick me up’/energy snack
  • 1 tbs raw coconut butter
  • 2 tbs raw virgin coconut oil
  • 1 tsp raw cocoa butter, grated or shaved with a fork
  • 1 tbs raw honey
  • Lucuma powder and mesquite powder to sweeten to taste. More Lucuma and less cocoa will make it taste more like commercial ‘milk chocolate’
  • 2 tbs raw tahini, enough to turn the above ingredients into a paste
  • 1 tsp cocoa nibs and/or 6 chopped raw cashew nuts, pili nuts, almonds if you want to add some crunchy consistency.

For truffles: refrigerate for 15 minutes then spoon into truffle shape and roll into more cocoa powder, either neat or sweetened with agave powder.

For everyday snacks: pour into ice cube trays, leave to set then keep in the fridge in dark glass jars.

Improvise, improve and let me know! Have fun!

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The Human Beings Who Save The World

by Sophie on November 17, 2016

“According to Jewish legend, there are in each generation 36 righteous humans who prevent the rest of us from being destroyed. Through their extraordinary good deeds and their love of the divine spark, they save the world over and over again. They’re not famous saints, though. They go about their business anonymously, and no one knows how crucial they are to our well-being.” I am not a specialist in Jewish legend but I have heard a similar thing taught in the Sufi tradition, where such people are called Saints and I cannot remember the exact number they are supposed to be according to Sufism.

The number of those special people varies in different spiritual traditions but I believe this to be true. I have felt it to be true and in my life long search to meet outstanding spiritual masters, I have personally met 3 people who I think would easily answer that description. People who have devoted their lives to the spiritual and emotional well-being of others, with awareness and with the knowledge of powerful energy tools so they can do big archetypal work all the time. None of them are famous. At least two of them have very modest incomes.

Those are only the individuals I have had the honor to meet of course. And I am sure there are many more.

What would you change in the world if you devoted your life to the spiritual awakening of others?

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A Day in the Life of a Healer

by Sophie on October 17, 2016

Today my clients and prospective clients were a psychic, a coach, a Marine vet, a teacher, a Physician’s Assistant, a realtor and an accountant. They live in China, the West Coast of the USA, Texas or Canada. We removed attached ghosts from China, worked on some old Arabic DNA, cleared Eastern European curses, healed childhood wounds and discussed awakening and enlightenment. Every one of them said they felt better, more themselves, hopeful and more in touch with their creativity as a result of our conversations and sessions. It was a good day at the (healer’s) office!

If YOU want to heal using the healing and energy tools I use every day for myself, my family, my clients and my students, make an appointment!

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Enlightenment is a Personal Experience

by Sophie on September 28, 2016

The best thing about being taken into the Heart of God, what people call having an ‘enlightenment’ experience, is that you can do it again and again. In fact it is addictive and the more you go there the more you want to be there!

Some have a spontaneous enlightenment experience, and some choose to become enlightened.

By having the intention to merge with Divine Light and dissolve into it, by having the intention to ‘know God’, you are asking to be given the experiences that will remove all blocks until you are aligned with the Heart of God. Then it just happens. There is no recipe. Every one gets there in their personal way because each one of us is a different facet of the Divine, unique strands of consciousness with their own intention to experience being in their own way.

Of course being in the presence of someone who goes to the Heart of God often, who lives in it or who is a portal for it helps. If we are the hard-headed type it will make it easier for us to let go and surrender in the loving presence of another human being. I know it did for me. But it is by no means a prerequisite and many of my friends were suddenly transported into the Divine of their own accord at seemingly random moments.

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When You Are a Healer, You Need a Healer

by Sophie on August 15, 2016

When you are a healer, you need a healer who is further on the path to guide you. Just as athletes need a coach who has practiced their sport and financial managers need mentors who know about finance. When I need help, I call a healer! Because I am a healer and healers find the root causes of my issues and remove them. When their work is done, my life force flows again.  Are you a healer? Then you need a healer to be your coach and mentor.

In my class, Awaken the Healer Within, you learn self-care, energy balance and healing tools. This is a practical, thorough and efficient system of energy work. I have been a healer, a mentor and a coach to other healers for 18 years. I will take you through a full year of chakra work, energy work and attunements that will change your energy for ever and probably make you stronger in ways that you cannot imagine at  the moment. Join me in a class, loaded with energy work.

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How Do You Become a Healer?

by Sophie on July 16, 2016

Energy healing can look like magic. First there is pain and wooosh, the pain is gone and I feel better. Pretty good trick, right? And it really is that easy when you know how. So how do you learn energy healing?

1- you listen to your intuition

Listen to your intuition, to your guidance, to angels if you are blessed with recognizing their presence and visitations.

Listen to the healers YOU TRUST and who have more experience. Choose a mentor and work with them.

Listen to your body. Your body knows how to heal itself and how to heal others. It’s hardwired to do exactly that, if you listen to it and follow the prompts.

2- you take small, do-able steps

If your intuition whispers to listen to a radio show or to sign up for a class, do that.

Change your diet one item at a time to detox and raise your vibration.

Start using the Reiki you were attuned to 10 years ago and forgot all about.

Use those essential oils and crystals you’ve been keeping around for years. PLAY with them and see what happens.

Meditate daily for at least 5 minutes.

Breathe deeply often. (You’d be surprised what oxygen can do for your brain.)

All these small changes will strengthen you and support you in taking the next step and the next until you use your intuition and your innate healing abilities daily.

Of course, if you want to become a healer faster, you can also join a class like mine and learn the tricks of the trade in a year or two. Details are here and registration is open for next September.

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